August 12, 2011

Forgiveness


Forgiveness is probably the hardest thing we’ll ever attempt to do, but once we are able to let go the wrongs that have been done to us, it changes everything. My mom always says, forgiveness is one of the most beautiful expression of love, because it changes your relationship, your emotional makeup, your attitude and gives you a better life.

Most of the people believe that forgiving is a sign of weakness, but the fact is that it’s the sign of strength. You’re always a winner after forgiving, you don’t lose anything.  I called a few actors to find their views on forgiveness:



PUSHTIEE SHAKTI: For me forgiveness is bliss. It’s a door to peace and happiness. People say it’s very difficult, but I find it very easy. I forgive each and everyone who hurts me ‘unintentionally’. I don’t even remember when was the last time I forgave someone. When people ‘deliberately’ hurt me, I hurt them in such a way that they never ever dare to cross my path. I believe in forgiving but not forgetting.


GAURAV BAJAJ: Forgiving is a good job. It carries a lot of power and is like a blessing for a person who hurts you. I hardly get angry, and I take fraction of seconds to forgive. I don't believe in holding a grudge against anyone. I think if you want peace then you should know how to forgive.


PANCHI BORA For me forgiveness matters a lot and is very important tasks that need to be performed on regular basis. I said regular basis because every day so many people hurt you and you hurt so many people, so if you don’t forgive or seek forgiveness your life becomes stressful. Being a true capriconion I have an amazing memory of the tiniest detail so it is very difficult for me to forget, but I forgive easily.


SAMEER SONI: I believe in karma, what goes around comes around. When somebody cheats you, hurts you, then you must forgive and forget because God is watching and will punish him/her for their evil deeds. Mistakes happen and we also hurt others, so when somebody hurts me I forgive and move on. Why to hold grudges? Why to flatter anyone? Why to give importance to others?


ANUPRIYA KAPOOR: I have a very sensible reason for forgiveness. When we are wronged we can either respond by seeking revenge or we can forgive. I choose forgiveness; it allows me to move on. It’s like a gift which I always want to receive and give away. People who are very close to you mostly hurt the most and I cannot stay away from my family and friends so I forgive them. I feel satisfied when I forgive someone or seek forgiveness.


ADDITI GUPTA: It’s a human nature to do mistakes & when they do mistakes they regret, and when they regret they need forgiveness. But only a few people have guts to face the other person and say ‘Sorry’. When somebody hurts me & say ‘Sorry’ I forgive them but for me forgetting is not possible. I think even after forgiving a Black Space always remains in your heart. Every hurt teaches you a lesson, it’s good to forgive but when you forgot your giving another chance to the same person or to someone else to commit the same mistake again.


AASIYA KAZI: Like others I do believe in forgiveness. It vanquishes the pain and heals both the forgiver and the forgiven. At some point in our lives, we either have to forgive or get forgiven. I think it’s very easy to ask for forgiveness by saying 'I am sorry', but it’s very difficult to forgive others. I can forgive someone for a mistake or a deliberate hurt, but if that person repeats it again I teach him/her a good lesson.


RAKHI SAWANT: I love Jesus. Bible teaches us to love our enemies. Jesus’s plea from the cross shows-‘Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they do’. I do the same when somebody hurts me and if by mistake I hurt anyone then I immediately say sorry, sorry bolne se mai choti nahi hoo jaaugi na. Recently I was hurt when Kangana Ranawut said,” I will not kiss Mika for promotion because I am not Rakhi Sawant”.  I was deeply hurt, I cried but then later I forgave her. I am innocent, though I am always misunderstood and ridiculed. I am happy because my Jesus is with me.


SHALINI ARORA: Forgiving somebody is giving him/her a 2nd chance to change and make things better. But at the same time it is hard to forget, I do not keep the score and hold grudges against anybody. For me it’s much easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive people I love.


DRASHTI DHAMI: I do believe in it, it’s a crucial act of self healing, and self-empowerment. Once we decide to forgive somebody, there is a tremendous feeling of wholeness in thought and courage all moving in the same direction creating a powerful force for healing.  When a friend hurt me I forgive them easily, but I usually don't give too much importance to strangers when they hurt me. I apologize and I always say "I'm sorry" when I hurt someone or if I make a mistake.

All the actors said that they do believe in forgiving, but a few believe in ‘Forgiving but not Forgetting’.  Just by saying I forgive you is not enough, tree of bitterness will die and forgiveness will bear a fruit only if the soil around it i.e. the soil of the heart is soft enough for the fruit to grow in.


-K Himaanshu Shukla..

Copyright © 2011 - ScrutinyByKHimaanshu

52 comments:

Ramya said...

Thanks for the article!

Loved Anupriya's answers! Its true that there's a satisfaction in forgiveness!

Anonymous said...

Additi is right....u can forgive ppl...but cant foget their mistakes..!!..a mistake once done is done...we can forgive but cant forget..

Anonymous said...

omg additii apk n aasiya in one article thanks thanks

ANAHITA said...

i m in luv with APK nd her ans! dazzling pic nd outstanding answers! all de evry best!

Anonymous said...

Thank for the Additi gupta' views, Love Her and God bless her always.

paulomi said...

thnxx for dis... love apk's answers.. so true..love her !!

Anonymous said...

THANX A LOT SIR LOVE APK <3

Anonymous said...

that is why we love APK so much lover her views hc was totally corect she is sensible♥

Anonymous said...

drashti dhami is queen of telly wood. thanks for her article

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the article.. Loved anupriya's answer... Frank and straight from heart...

Maria

Anonymous said...

omg...additi...
loved ur answer..its so true...
additi is one of those actresses who have courage to speak honestly...
i m so proud of u ,that u always prefers to be honest than trying to be a 'mahan' by saying something else which is not true

Anonymous said...

wow.... addditi u r the best
loved her answers

Anonymous said...

thnks for additi's view. luved her answers

Anonymous said...

Additi gupta is the best. Lvd her answers.
Thnks for the article

Anonymous said...

Very interesting to hear others opinions on forgiveness.

I agree with Sameer’s reply.

Additi's reply was very interesting the whole forgiving but not forgetting. As long as the forgetting doesn't hinder moving the relationship forward if the person who made the mistake is truly sorry. There is a difference between holding grudges and remembering something so you know better not to make the same mistake of either trusting that person again or not (of course meaning the person who committed the "mistake" or "hurt" did it intentionally)

Aasiya's reply was also very interesting to read...teaching a lesson to the person who committed the "wrong"/"mistake"/"hurt" over and over again. If the person doesn’t learn from his/her first mistake and does it again sometimes a lesson needs to be taught.

Shalini Arora's reply is very true...it is much harder to forgive people you love or who are close to you because you've invest so much of your time and love to them that when something is done to hurt you it is harder to forgive or forget.

Anonymous said...

Additi's answers were really TRUE...practical.
Its very easy to say that we can forgive and also say that we've forgor abt it, but that doesn't really happen.....unless its soem serious Saa-Bahu Dramas going around :P

In reality its very very hard to FORGET....Forgive to kabhi bhi kar sakte hain, chahe kinti der se hi kyun na ho.

Loved AG's answers !! Very sensible...clear, from heart :)

Anonymous said...

LOVED THE REPLY OF ANUPRIYA KAPOOR..........
-SITA

rabya khan said...

love you aditi you are awesome persom

mona said...

aditi is the best wow really nice aditi

rishma said...

very simple aditi you are so sweet

mariam and farah said...

like you di you are super much love aditi

Anonymous said...

thanks a lott additis interview....just luvd her answers...plzzz give us harshiti photoshoot...plzzzzzzzzzz...u r our only hope...even SBS isnt listening to us.plzzzz give us harshiti.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Sameer & Anupriya's answer, amazing personalities. How can you say you forgive someone, if you don't forget,that ain't possible. These tv stars that have said they 'forgive but don't forget',obviously don't know what the word forgiveness means.Only those people who don't have a heart can't forget & you define them people as vindictive. Sorry if i offended anyone with my opinion.

Ridz said...

I can forgive but not forget :D
Thanks for the interview (Anupriya & Aditi...all the best guys)

Anonymous said...

aww..additi's answers is sooo true. i think she speak the truth.its happns in reality. we can forgive b forgetting is not so easy...i think she is the one who knows the realy meaning of forgiveness, thats totally differnt from forget.
luv u additi

Anonymous said...

luv aditis answer. . . although it kind of contradicts itself, everyone can understand that feeling where u forgive but dot forget...luv ag!!

Kalindi said...

Loved Anupriya's answers.. It a great feeling to forgive.. And u have to forget if u are forgiving someone, otherwise the forgiveness makes no meaning.. Love u angel.. U have really nice views :)

FJkhushbu said...

love DD's answer..
thank u 4 DRASHTI's interview..
love u DD...<3

Anamika Luvs Maan said...

WOWWWWWWWWW ...Loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeddddddd Drashti Dhami's views...Beautiful Girl with Beautiful views...thnx for this...

Anonymous said...

I think my answer will be something similar to AG. to forgive someone when they have realized that they did something wrong is right, but it's hard to forget it, because when someone has hurt you once, they can do it again. but it depends on who you give the right to hurt you in the first place.

Anonymous said...

simply luv Panchi's view...so true...thank you himanshu....

Anonymous said...

himanshu..we want DRASHTI's interview,plsssss

Anonymous said...

I really love reading the Scrutiny articles...he always has some interesting and thought provoking articles.

Urooj_Khan said...

thankuu for the interview anupriya love u so much hug of you awsumeee :)

Urooj_Khan said...

Additi best friend Karan Kundra hai dono ko bhula do harshad ko bhulna nahi chahiti hai additi ........ Additi gupta nowhere harshiti ending. Additi all fans hate or hurt ekta kapoor harshad anupriya :( Sab se wait kar rahi hoon aap ko dekhna bohat khush ho ge please bhula do harshad anupriya performance harshad like good friend anupriya hug of love fans harshiya . God bless you . Love u sir please harshad anupriya back .. Thankyou so much sir:):):):) ♥♥♥♥

Urooj_Khan said...

i hate like very much additi gupta :(

Anonymous said...

AG's answer is very sensible b'cos for philosophical sake we say forgiving is forgetting. But its not true. We must have forgiven many in our life. But if u say u have forgiven someone, u should also remember their mistake. Just sit back n think u'll remember everyone who have hurt u and then u have forgiven.

Anonymous said...

Wowww........
Anupriya the witty...... Loved her answers altogether..... Srsly forgiving someone is very much necessary to stay with ur family n frnds.......
Luv APKs ans
-Shobhana

Anonymous said...

thank u sooo much for additi's and apk's interview...
and urooj khan , wts ur problem? if u hate additi...then keep hateing..bt dont hurt her fans by keep blashing and keep saying that u hate her hate her....k? i luv both of them and i was a regular viewer of both kis desh and tereliye. i'm sure apk's will be so sad to have a fan like u..or i must say ur not at all her fan...i'm sure that apk is personally so sweet and she will never entertain this type fans who is simply disgusting...so next time comment like a true fan and be social....
- anju

Anonymous said...

love Additi's ans she is so sweet luv u Additi :)

-Maria- said...

First I kindly ask you to remove Urooj Khan answers about this article....I think bashing someone is not correct...plzzz remove it it's not good....
A warm thanks for sharing this article and especially Additi Gupta's views...you made 3 in one I mean Additi Anupriya and Aasiya answers :D this shows that you're caring about all the fans Harshiti Harshiya and HarshAsi wooow keep it up claps!!!!!
plzzz keep it up this great work :)
This article was really nice to read.....LOVED ALL THE ANSWERS :)
-Maria-

Urooj_Khan said...

Mariaaa jo karna hai karlooo :)
i hate like very much additi gupta bara hurt kiya hai :(

Anonymous said...

additi ne kya kiya hai? she made heer perfect and premeer\ harshiti beautiful... her cuteness and wonderful personality is one of the reason for the increasing popularity of premeer...still today we all remember harshiti with a smile and additi and harshad both are equally responsible for it..
and abt apk he is also my fav...bt u r simply disgusting... god pls save my apk from these kind of people who call themselves as apk's fan...
and himaanshu sir pls remove that comment from this article
- anju

Maria said...

-ANJU- I agree with you!!!! thanks for supporting Harshiti fans ( I think you're one :D ) and APK doesn't deserve these kind of people actually all actors deserve to be respected because all work very hard...but we have our own views and likes :) Urooj I won't do anything I just wanted to reply on your post...plzzzz put an end to all this!!! This becomes very annoying now...

Gwynn said...

wow...d comments r going off track...but talking about forgiveness...i agree with additi, simply because our decisions and hence forgiving is in our hands, but our memories and hence remembering and forgetting isn't. We can forgive those who have wronged us if we still want them in our lives, but it's only their future goodness and love towards us that will erase the memory of past hurts...we can't force our minds to forget, try it...it doesn't work that way...and that's the simple and practical truth of life. Forgiveness cleanses your soul, but it is time that purifies your memories.

Anonymous said...

LUV U DRASHTI.....

Anonymous said...

So true. I really loved your reply.

AG is so practical and frank. AG rocks!!!!

Anonymous said...

There is a great difference b/w forgiving and forgetting. So, first of all get your facts straight.

The person you are talking about, is saying that, it is easy to forgive people and grant apologies but if the harm done is very much then you obviously won't be able to forget what that person did.
This is human behavior, she is not trying to be 'Mahan' nor is she trying to sound like the ideal bahu......her statement is practical and true.

DruDee said...

loved anupriya's answer...She is so sweet ...love her so....much...love Harshiya to....

anu said...

love u additi....u r tne best........

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Nalini said...

I LOVED ADITI'S COMMENTS. SHE IS A PURE HONEST SOUL. SHE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO MANIPULATE AND FAKING TO ANYONE FACE. IT'S NOT THAT EASY SAY I FORGIVE U AND KEEP IT IN OUR MIND LIKE RECORDER!! WHAT KIND OF FORGIVENESS IS THAT?? BUT WE ARE HUMAN AND PROMISED IT WANT HAPPENED AGAIN MAY BE THERE'S A CHANCE TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON. I THINK DEPENDS OF THE PERSON AND THE SITUATION!!!

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